Girls, Gaming, and Dating

[chronotriggergod]

Hey everybody. I had a conversations started in another thread and we (myself and RedScar) thought it be more appropriate to start another thread.

So if anyone has any thoughts about the 3: girls, gaming, dating, then let us know what's on your mind. Also, anything about getting gaming girls to go on dates or come out of their shells would be most appreciated ;)

[Yunni]

1. Stop refering to us as a special event item :P
2. get to know the girl you like.
3. If you both realise you have a lot in common and you want to take it to the next level ask her out.

[Varius]

*Star Ocean 3 ~ Till the End of Time, on women in general*

Sophia: "You'd rather play video-games than come and hang out with me..."

Get the idea?

You have to live your life for your woman, or at least make her think you do, in order to impress her.

[chronotriggergod]

I'm not referring to women as "items" or "things" or "some sort of property". I totally don't want this to go in that direction. I wanna nip this one in the bud early.

And I'm not about to go off the deep end for a woman, or anyone. I'm a quirkyalone. I'm just wondering how some of these couples get started and am thinking about persuing something of the sort.

[Kuja]

My woman's great, and although she's not a gamer, she does like to watch me play them. I mean, I can't spend the ENTIRE time doing (Remainder of this phrase removed for the sake of the forum)

She loves True Crime: Street of LA, because it's pretty damn funny.

-Runs over an old man- [Kang] I didn't do it! Scout's honor!

[Mirai Gen]

A few rules
1 - all the good ones are taken
2 - all the available ones just want to be friends.
3 - And when you DO find that perfect girl, turns out she's a stalker. (http://www.ctrlaltdel-online.com/?t=archives&date=2004-09-08)
4 - If you, by some miracle, happen to find a gaming girl who's single but won't find where you work without you telling her, either ask her out before some other schmoe does or make sure you can become friends REAL fast.

[Nikose Tyris]

Not true! the women around here (I should say girls or ladies, really) who game also date us nerds. they aren't that rare, and they are usually not nearly as possesive as non gamer chicks. my ex, Becky, got me hooked on gaming. I met my Fiancee gaming, too! all this is pretty common, really.

part of the reason i perfer game girls, is that non gamer chicks dont get our jokes. we may reference anything, from DND to Soul Calibur 2, and our friends and girls understand. we like being understood, don't we? This leads into my next point: Why in the infinite layers of the abyss do we go after girls so out of our range? you know, the preppy blonde supermodel types. except on the rare occasion they game, they wont even speak to us. my little friend Laefer was lucky enough to hook one of these girls, so power to him. i got a pretty red head myself.


and to all who are offended by the way females are portrayed in this seeming speech: I had to phrase it somehow, and this was the easiest way for me. so if anyone wants to pollitically correct my statements, go ahead. I am a male, and a jerk, so sorry for the phrasing.

[Gineko]

they aren't that rare
He's right, I'm a girl and a gamer, and my boyfriend is a gamer and I met him through gaming.

1 - all the good ones are taken
That is not true however, there is always some girl out there who is unattached and likes gaming. Alot of my friends who are girls actually sometimes have trouble finding a guy because they are gamers, which I really don't understand how that happens, but yeah.

[Yunni]

1. Stop refering to us as a special event item :P

hrem...

I'm not referring to women as "items" or "things" or "some sort of property". I totally don't want this to go in that direction. I wanna nip this one in the bud early.

HREM....

part of the reason i perfer game girls, is that non gamer chicks dont get our jokes. we may reference anything, from DND to Soul Calibur 2, and our friends and girls understand.

interresting...

Chronotrigger - my point for quoting all that was: I was JOKING 'special event item'? Dude, that was clearly a play on 'stop treating women like objects'...

deary me.

I wasn't seriously saying you womanize - chill.

ANYHOO - I'd listen to the people that have posted so far, they have said decent stuff. We are not a scarce phenominum. How about joining a local gaming club? You might meet gals through that?

[Nikose Tyris]

no. you only get the uber geeks there. you have to meet them through other friends, and friends of friends. i men, look at the network I have. My network spreads through Canada, all the way to Oklahoma in the states. I have set up a pair in quebec and texas. i also set up my cousin 'OrcBane' with a nice little blonde gamer armed with a quick wit and a sharp tongue.

of course, she was one of my ex's. *wink*

female gamers tend to be a bit more indepth and 'below the surface' ee, they also are more loyal than the others anyway. stick with it!

[Yunni]

no. you only get the uber geeks there.


....... thanks... (I am in a gamers table top role play games club and I met my boyfriend there)...

[Gineko]

....... thanks... (I am in a gamers table top role play games club and I met my boyfriend there)...
oh, snap!

they also are more loyal than the others anyway.
I wouldn't say that, if a girl is a gamer it doesn't make her more loyal than other girls. It depends on the person, not what they do.

[Yunni]

I wouldn't say that, if a girl is a gamer it doesn't make her more loyal than other girls. It depends on the person, not what they do.

She speaks the truth. The problem lies - I think, is that people are thinking about the hobby, of steriotype and general ideas of what they think a 'gamer girl' is. It's just the same if you steriotype a 'goth chick' or 'pop princess'.

Just because she likes computer games, doesn't mean she isn't going to cheat on you.

Just because she likes make-up and pop music, doesn't mean she will be a tart.

It's the person you have to get to know, not their hobbies. Yes, the girls may be uber geeks - and prey tell, what is the problem with that? Are you assumeing we are all... spotty and wear thick glasses? oh dear.

you know what?

I AM AN UBER GEEK AND I'M PROUD DAMMIT >D

.. or wait.. *rolls a D20 to check her dexterity... rolls a 1 - as a result she falls off her pedastool and everyone points and laughs*

[Gineko]

I AM AN UBER GEEK AND I'M PROUD DAMMIT >D
ditto, AMEN!

.. or wait.. *rolls a D20 to check her dexterity... rolls a 1 - as a result she falls off her pedastool and everyone points and laughs*
... *runs away*

[Krylo]

no. you only get the uber geeks there.
But... Uber-geeky chicks turn me on. There's just something about a girl who owns more roleplaying manuals than I've seen, has nintendo games that no one I've talked to has ever heard of, and knows enough about computers to realize that Linux is only a good operating systems for servers, unless you don't mind not running software... AND how to fix windows machines and macs that gets me going.

Oh my GOD does it get me going.

Also: Gineko. Close to spamming on that last post there. Careful. I'll let it slide this time, but just because you (probably) have boobs. Or I'm in a good mood. One of the two. I prefer the answer which involves boobs, though.

[Varius]

You know...I actually happened to have a personal experience that relates to this. Sit in for a long one...

I went to the ice cream parlor; one Autumn ago, it was late out, but I decided that I need to indulge myself with coffee-flavored ice cream. And I did. I sat outside the building at one of the tables, and happen to here a group of eight girls, cheerleader, popular, in-crowd types, talking about video-games.

I heard mention of Super Smash Bros., Donkey Kong Country, and Yoshi's Island 2. Cheerleader, in-crowd girls...talking about playing video-games, or about having played them before! Astounding!

I would've approached them, had I knew a good opening line. I thought I'd just go with "hi," but...there were eight of them, and only one of me! I'm used to women who would sooner kick my ass then look at me, so obviously I didn't bother.

'Til this day, I wonder how I could have made better of that situation; God had offered a Golden opportunity to me, and I couldn't make use of it! I could've been with someone who is both sexually attractive, and interested in the exact same kinds of things I am!

Gah!

But... Uber-geeky chicks turn me on. There's just something about a girl who owns more roleplaying manuals than I've seen, has nintendo games that no one I've talked to has ever heard of, and knows enough about computers to realize that Linux is only a good operating systems for servers, unless you don't mind not running software... AND how to fix windows machines and macs that gets me going.
Ahh yes, I have an old ladyfriend who would be "My Little Shion," if only I knew where she's gotten herself to. Probably already graduated from college with honors, with a career in engineering...

[mammothtank]

Also: Gineko. Close to spamming on that last post there. Careful. I'll let it slide this time, but just because you (probably) have boobs. Or I'm in a good mood. One of the two. I prefer the answer which involves boobs, though. Typical krylo for you. :rolleyes:

From what I've gathered from reading this thread is that being a serious gamer isn't why I'm still alone. Is it because I spend half of my time awake in my basement? Is it that girls don't think a retro-color GBA SP is cool? I mean, I hardly even know any girls. What's a dork like me gotta do to get a chick?

[EvilKujujuwa]

well....
I'm a girl. I like to game. There are a lot of us out there that are single. I can think of three gilrs that are my firends that game are pretty good looking if I do say so myself, and are single. I am taken, by my game loving geek. But it doesn't really take much for one of you guys to hook a girl like me.

Here are a few tips.
1. Let us know that you are intersted in us. Not by just saying "Hey I like you!" because that is just creepy. But ask us questions like "How are you?", "What did you do this weekend?", stuff like that.

2. When you know more about us and what we like, talk about it!! My guy found out that I am one of the buggest Final Fantasy freaks ever, so he started talking about how he is playing through Tactics again. It's a nice way to spend more time with us.

3.Once all you know what we like, ask the girl if she would want to hang out. But be creative!! I can't really expand on this one, but you have a brain for more then figuring out D&D battles.

4. Then from here on out paly it by ear to see when you can ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend.

:p

[DragonDaimyo]

There are a lot of girls out there who are gamers and are avaliable. Unfortunatly, they all seem to live everywhere except for where I live.

I'm not a shut-in. I actually have a wide-variety of friends, from the drama king to the band geeks to the uber-religious to those who swear like wounded sailors. I just have location problems (I hope). ;)

[RagnarofBurland]

well....

1. Let us know that you are intersted in us. Not by just saying "Hey I like you!" because that is just creepy. But ask us questions like "How are you?", "What did you do this weekend?", stuff like that.


Of course, then we get screwed into "He's justa friend syndrome" because who would possibly want someone nice! :p

[Crodevillian Team]

Of course, then we get screwed into "He's justa friend syndrome" because who would possibly want someone nice!

OMIGOD OMIGOD, don't even JOKE about bringing up the "Nice Guy" syndrome. There's no such thing; it's just a lame excuse quote-unquote (that's right, I typed it out!) nice guys come up with to explain why they're still single instead of addressing the real problems.

I heard mention of Super Smash Bros., Donkey Kong Country, and Yoshi's Island 2. Cheerleader, in-crowd girls...talking about playing video-games, or about having played them before! Astounding!

There's plenty of "in-crowd" girls that play video games. As time passes, and video games grow in popularity/acceptance (every guy and his mother plays Halo), this will become even more apparent.

[RedScar]

You know what I hate. When your with a girl and her friends. And she says she has to go to some and she'll be right back(example: the bathroom). So while shes gone her like one friend thats there with you asks you if you want to ask her out. If you say yes then it's usally way to soon and it's werid. If you say no then it's like "Oh, okay." And they think you just want to be a friend. I mean, is there a middle ground? I'm pretty sure all you girls tell your friends stuff that when you ask us you say you won't. Well atlest some of you.

And EvilKujujuwa, thank you. I wondered how to get to know what you girls like. I have to remeber... weekend.

[Krylo]

The middle-ground, Redscar, is using an answer that is less definitive and isn't monosyllabic. For instance: "Well, I don't know. I really like her, but I'm kind of nervous about it, and I don't feel like I know her well enough."

You have the "Basically yes" answer, but you also make it sound like you want to wait a bit, so it's not too soon, and, further, the being nervous about it will make it seem like you REALLY like her and don't want to fuck up.

Date follows.


OMIGOD OMIGOD, don't even JOKE about bringing up the "Nice Guy" syndrome. There's no such thing; it's just a lame excuse quote-unquote (that's right, I typed it out!) nice guys come up with to explain why they're still single instead of addressing the real problems.You forgot to put "Nice Guys" in quotes. We all know actual nice guys wouldn't be so pissy about just getting friends instead of laid.

[RagnarofBurland]

Crodevillian Team you are an evil person who likes to spoil my fun. I must now go cr...celebate.

:(

In all seriousness though, I think if I could find a female who would even consider to be just my friend and play D&D I would be super happy for like a month, then I'd get used to it and find something else to complain about. Hell, I've met plenty of girls who like to roleplay, but for some reason you bring up D&D and suddenly I get an excuse anywhere from: "But why should we use rules?" to "Dungeons and Dragons....I'm a nerd Mike but that's just to far". The first one is usually the easier to deal with but still usually hits a dead end. Now I think I'll go back to waiting for that friend of mine who provided me with both of those example to get on the internet...

[Nikose Tyris]

something interesting that I have noted among gaming girls, slightly off your path here... the girls that RP with me, tend to be a bit... open. they take feats like seductive, and they even have one where they can use blatent sexuality to get their way! followed by upset males when they dont get their way, of course. not fair.

in general, to respond to my last post, the ubergeeky girls are also more interested in the game, than in the people they meet. I had to litterally entirely destroy my fiancee's character in DND before she remembered my name. of course, at first that was to curse me everytime she saw me... heh... oh, blooming young love...

[Packman]

Most people are gamers! Even the biggest loosers play at least one or two videogames.

Anyway I'm single and looking (for a while probably). So I thought I'd let all the girl gamers out there who are single and looking know who I am.

I wonder if this is gonna work? I doubt it, but hey its worth a shot I figured.

Jonathan E. Pautler
18/M/Illinois
Looking for an attractive, smart, and talkative woman. Preferably close, but certainly not a requirement.
Likes poetry, reading, writing, talking, and other forms of verbal and written epression. Former Basketball and Football player in High School. Likes sporty women too.
Currently in my first year at Southwestern Illinois College.

Warning: I used to be a gaming superfreak.
I've played and beaten nearly all the Final Fantasy series. Was a top Age of Empires 2 player. Played a huge variety of genres. My life until about 2 years agao consisted of spending 8+ hours a day gaming on average. Naturally, more during the summer and less during school.
Sadly now my life is too full with 21 credit hours, NPF, and a job tutoring. I dont get anywhere near my normal daily dose of gaming, but other things fill that void. However, I'm still recovering from withdrawl symptoms.

If theres any gaming girls interested drop me a message.
All of my contacts are linked on my NPF account.

For all the other First Timers (http://www.ctrlaltdel-online.com/?t=archives&date=2003-06-04) out there.

For the rest of ya's.
Hook me up if anyone knows any hotty gamers around St.L or So. Ill area.

[Nikose Tyris]

okay, the purpose of the forums is not to hook up. if it was, then that is all we would be doing here. just giving you the warning before an admin comes by and starts jabbering about, "obvious unwritten rules about internet safety and guidelines."
besides, if life were supposed to be that easy, we would all be born with the name and address of our future lifemates tattoo'd on our foreheads so we dont get screw ups.

[Krylo]

Oh no no. I'm not going to talk about unwritten rules about internet safety and guidlines.

I'm one of those "Let the gene pool clean itself" folks. In fact, I fully support him putting not only his state up, but also his city, zip code, and street address. And not just here! Oh no! Why he should post it on prison message boards as well! Particularily ones for serial killers about to get out on parole!

Disclaimer: The above was all sarcastic. BITINGLY sarcastic. I in no way condone getting oneself murdered.

Seriously, no more of that.

Adding modular weight to Nikose's statement, basically.

And Nikose, don't steal my fun. I like to do this myself. I LIKE to point out how wrong people are. It's my reason for existence. You don't want to take away my reason for existence, do you? Nikose? Buddy?

[Nikose Tyris]

watch it, pal. we have a saying where we come from.
"friends are friends, pals are pals, but buddies sleep together."
oddly, most cats around here are named buddy.

but no more fun stealing. of course, modular weight means little, compared to rep weight... but, i would never ask for rep, oh no...

also, why are the hot gamer chicks even being discussed? they still have their choice of jocks anyway. why would they come to us?

[Krylo]

For the same reason that hot gamer guys (like me, and a few other guys I've seen on the picture thread [DJStarchild = Hawt]) prefer gamer girls.

Jocks don't share interests with us. They aren't good for building a lasting relationship. The only thing you could get from a jock, relationship-wise, if you're a 'hardcore gamer', is cheap sex.

[Packman]

I'm one of those "Let the gene pool clean itself" folks. In fact, I fully support him putting not only his state up, but also his city, zip code, and street address. And not just here! Oh no! Why he should post it on prison message boards as well! Particularily ones for serial killers about to get out on parole!

Eh, I've found that bieng afraid of 'they' or what could possbly happen is something that limits far too many people. I figure why should I be a coward and not try something new? I havent heard of, met, or talked to anyone ever who had an actual expierience of something extremely bad happening because of meeting people over the internet. The worst legitimate expierience I've heard of is girls when meeting an internet boyfriend tend to not tell guys they are hideous before they meet.

Seriously people stop watching the news, go out, and look at the world for what it is. I'm not too afraid of a psycho stalker from the internet. Also actually I have given my address, city, and zip code to people I've met online before. The ones that actually met me, or sent things to me turned out to be kickass.

Now if your into chat porn or cybering or something fucked up and then you try and meet your internet fuck buddy, then I would expect something like the imaginary 60 year old little boy molesting perverts meeting.

Btw I totally agree with Krylos first post about gamer girls bieng sexy.

Who were you trying to insult with the gene pool joke? Honestly Krylo your better than that. Very disapointing.

Finally, do you actually know of a prision message board? That might have some interesting psycoanalysis stuff. Maybe I could do a speech or a paper on it.

(Dont think I'm soo naive. Its not becoming.)

Internet Safety guidelines acknowledged. Thanks for your concern.

[Nikose Tyris]

not to post spam, but I think i officially hate you.

people die every year listening to people like you. it may not happen to you. personally, I hope you get molested by male ex cons, to teach you a lesson. but when there are kids, 15 and under, little, stupid preteens at somepoints, (this board is not blocked by bess, and the other school netagents) it's pretty bad. set a godd example at least! if your gonna post, do it at a better board!

AND ALWAYS LAUGH AT ADMIN JOKES! it can be dangerous if you dont. Im serious here.

[RedScar]

..., but I'm kind of nervous about it,...

...You forgot to put "Nice Guys" in quotes. We all know actual nice guys wouldn't be so pissy about just getting friends instead of laid.

1. thats what I forgot. Damn. why couldn't you have told me this 5 hours earilyer? I should've remebered.

2. Did you check my profile? I think I'm a bit young to be the "trying to get laid" type.

[Nikose Tyris]

your not too young.

and i like how we all stereotype the opposite sex. admittedly, men do all fit a stereotype. women dont. but i guess that doesn't matter.

[RedScar]

Nikose I'd like to say some stuff but then I'd get into a huge long dicussion and this is not the place for it. And seconed I can't read what your writeing. All your posts he go off the screen. And i can't tell what they say. It's really hard to understand you. So I will also not say more. But tell me. Is there a place where us geeky guys(god I can't belive I'm finally accepting that I'm a geek) can meet geeky girls? Cause that is a automatic "Hey, we have something in common." Actually I'd be nice to meet anygirl whos a geeky gamer. It'd be nice to know there are girls out there(that I could meet in person) that would understand something in (what do we call it?) geek langue. And to say I am not a true hardcore geek, mabye gammer but not geek. (I've never played a game of DnD in my life.) This info would be nice in a readible way.

[Nikose Tyris]

okay, i will break something down real quick for you:
A nerd plays games,
A geek Roleplays.

the best place is an MSN group, if it is a safe one, or just hanging out at your local game store. I met a few ladies just standing in EB games.

[RedScar]

Okay then I'm a nerd. (I thought it was the other way around.) Anyways thank you for you advice about going to a store. after that I have no clue what you said. But I guess your right local gaming store should work out. Or go to the local card shop, it's closer. But then again I don't do cards so that's a bad idea. Thank you. Now I just have to worry about driving to get there.

[Nikose Tyris]

dont drive. then you get into a whole new set of labels, moving off from nerd.
catch a bus or get a ride from mom. or dad.

[mxyzptlk]

I've never been in a romantic relationship with anyone, and I blame this on two things:

1. I'm real antisocial. I don't really understand the purpose of engaging in small talk with acquaintances (if there even is one). If I barely know you, don't talk to me about bullshit; talk to me about things that actually matter. I find that people usually don't like to do this. Also, people almost never engage me in conversation, for I give off a rather dark vibe.

2. The only type of person I'd be willing to persue any kind of meaningful relationship with would have to share my open-mindedness and extreme cynicism, or at least know how to handle it. This goes for both sexual and non-sexual relationships, which is why I only have three people I would consider friends.

[Funka Genocide]

err well, I'll ramble for a few sentences on this subject.

nice guy defense=bullshit

Its just an excuse used by those with a distinct lack of self confidence, a skewed self image. I know, I used to bring it up all the time, the truth is, nice is stupid.

Friendly, generous, honest, dedicated, exciting, romantic, decisive etc.

those are all much better alternatives to nice.

nice guys end up getting shackled down in horrible long term relationships with woman who play them like an old Fender with missing strings, namely terribly.

also, there's always that thought some of us have, that we are ugly or unnatractive in some way.

truth is, its not terribly important. Be motivated in life, become someone you want to be, sexiness is an attitude. Look at my picture in the camwhore thread, I'm none too attractive, but it doesn't stop me from getting out there and meeting interesting people.

Now for the subject of gamer chicks. I think its a wonderful thing that this particular interest, gaming, has begun to spawn its own sub sector of society. I think its cool to be able to identify with a group dedicated to imagination and ingenuity, intelligence as well.

Its been my experience that "gamer chicks" are just a more specific translation of "nerdy chicks" which is to say, they identify with a set of values and ideals that difer somewhat from the mainstream.

Dating rules remain the same, and very simple, be yourself, and hope she's doing the same. Everything else is freestyle!

hmmm, well, I hope I didn't piss anyone off, I was just blabbering really, I now return you to your regularly scheduled Packman stalker fest! ;)

[Illuminatus]

You know, I have a funny story about this subject.

MY ex-GF's roomate is a gamer. She plays WoW. I play WoW. That's cool, right? We have something in common. You know why I ended up with her roomate and not her?

She never leaves the room. She's anti-social and (I hear) a raging, um, mean person. She's quiet, where my ex-Gf is outgoing, friendly and nice.

I dunno whether this will help any of you or not, but it seemed pertinent to me.

P.S. My ex-GF is also way hotter. Not that I'm a pig or anything.

[Demon with a Glass Hand]

For the same reason that hot gamer guys (like me, and a few other guys I've seen on the picture thread [DJStarchild = Hawt]) prefer gamer girls.

DJ Starchild is indeed an attractive young buck, Krylo. Additionally so are you, and so am I. We need to start some sort of 'Charlie's Angels' thing. Fight crime. Right wrongs. That sort of thing. The girls of NPF are just begging us to do it!

nice guy defense=bullshit

Its just an excuse used by those with a distinct lack of self confidence, a skewed self image. I know, I used to bring it up all the time, the truth is, nice is stupid.

Nice is weak. Women aren't looking for 'nice' guys. Women are looking for good men.

There's a psychological thesis on this somewhere out there. I would suggest looking it up, if you are interested in that sort of thing. I'm talking to you, all you NPFer Males in the Springtime of your Youth! I would do the work for you, and post a link, but part of relationships is working hard for something. I want all of you to start off on the right foot and do your own damn grunt work.

Meeting girls and getting dates isn't all that hard. Until you meet a girl. And start dating her. Then, if you're a good man, you'll stop dating for the sake of monogamy.

And it's true that all the good girls are taken, I suppose. So are all the good men (save for Krylo. But he's mine!) I happen to be one of the good men who is taken by a good girl. Her name is Blackmagegirl! and we've been dating since the summer. We own a cottage together on some lakeside property. We both want all of the NPFers out there to know this. Because when we see you talking about your girl/guy problems, we look at eachother and laugh.

Then we do it like bunnies in the spring.

Additionally, relationships are overated. When you have one, you'll know what I mean when I say you won't want another for a while (Love ya, hon!). Kids, they're are few things worse than a giant buildup to a fantastic letdown. Don't think about being in a relationship too much. It's bad for you. Furthermore, there are a lot of people out there who have a wide variety of interests. To only want a signifigant other because they share an interest in 'one silly aspect of your young lives' is a little selfdestructive.

Speaking as a man who has seen Krylo naked, and is dating a gaming girl, the desire to be with a gamer girl is a nice idea when you only look at the good. but, much like a Threesome, in practice it's a lot more work than you may be willing to put up with. Speaking as a man who enjoys threesomes, of course.

In the end, the pursuit of a gamer girl is like the pursuit of menage et trois. It's far too troublesome. Settle for the good, old fashioned "regular girl*."


*subject to an incredible amount of definitions.

[Funka Genocide]

Evil will always win, because good is dumb!

for some reason, this whole "nice guy" thing brought that quote to my head, so listen well to the knowledge bestowed upon you by Dark Helmet!

also, Demons got some good points there, I always found actively searching for one particular archetype doesn't get you anywhere, love is a spontaneous kind of thing.

now I'm wondering how Demon got to see Krylo naked, I'm feeling a bit left out here...

hey, maybe I could be the Charlie for your charlies' angels! Well, I could! :(

was there something I wanted to say on topic? probably...

[Mr. Viewtiful]

Here's some advice I learned recently, and I pass it on to all of the guys out there: girls like guys who take the initiative. That's right, if you've found that "certain someone" who you're "totally crushing" on, and she shows winterest in you, it's your job to get out there and ask her out; from what I've heard, having a girl ask you out is generally a bad sign.

*Also, I'm in need of some help: I'm inflicted with the dreaded "forgotten line syndrome," in which one can approach a girl, but can't quite think of anything to say. Here's how bad I have it: if real life were like Halo 2, my HUD would read "Press X to say 'DURR.' " whenever I approach anyone I'd have interest in.

Okay, so I'm not that bad.

So...does anyone have any generic conversation starters I could use?

*If I'm breaking any forum rules buy asking this, then please accept my sincerest apologies. I just figure it's be good to ask those mre experienced than I...

[EvilKujujuwa]

Mr. V.

"Hi" works best. Then IF she say's "Hi. (or the likeness)" back then say something that has to do with where you are located at the time. Ex: If you are at a book store and she is holding something, comment on it or something related to it, then you will have something in common. Unless she is buying it for her brother, then you are screwed. (But how often does that happen?) I hope this helps you "score" with the ladies.

BUT here is one tip that you should always keep in mind:

DON'T TRY TO OVER DO IT. If it seems in the littlest that she isn't in to you, excuse yourself and get away. And I mean this!! Because if she is in to you and you go to leave she will say something. Good luck! ;)

[slacker_45]

Dating advice from a gaming board. Hilarity ensues.

[Pixie]

Why is it that gaming girls get lumped into this huge category? It's like the only reason we are good is because we play games, not because of our interests. I play games, but that doesn't mean I only want to talk about games. I also like history and law. I go to raves every once in awhile. Plus, I want to be a journalist and write for a living. My gaming is a hobby. You shouldn't automatically assume a girl is going to be awesome because she plays video games, get to know her whole personality.

Anyway, I used to write an advice column, I actually have a community on livejournal for dorky advice, for nerds, gamers, and geeks. I'll give you some of the advice that I have given to people in the past. One of the best places to meet gaming girls is at a lan gaming center. I met one of my boyfriends there, and the majority of my friends. There you can find at least a couple girls. If you hang out at the lan gaming center enough, you will eventually find one willing to at least go on a date with you. Don't be afraid to ask them out. Yes, they might reject you in unspeakable ways. They might tear your heart out and stomp on it. But again, I say don't be afraid. Even if they do reject you, at least you know that you will never have a chance with her and hopefully stop having those dreams about her every night. Gaming stores are also a good place to meet gaming chicks. There you have the opportunity to strike up a conversation about the book she is holding. Hey, just maybe you'll bump heads with the perfect girl while reaching for a copy of DOOM 3 or the latest Zelda game. A few suggestions on starting a conversation with girls. Please, no cheesy pick up lines. Keep it simple. Maybe compliment her on something she's wearing, her hair, or her eyes. Next, ask her questions. Don't overload her with questions, but be interested. Be observant, notice the things she has in her hand, or the clothes she's wearing. This might give you clues about her personality, and help you with the conversation. Once you get to talking, if you're finding out that you have an interest in this girl. Let her know. Don't hint around, be a man, ask her out! Honestly, I let the guy make the first move. I know, I know, girls can do it too. But seriously, a lot of us are shy too and understand if the guy says he's nervous about it. After yu ask her out, my suggestions for a first date, unless given other signals, would be too opt for a crowded place. Maybe a coffee shop, you can sit and discuss the different tactics for counter terrorists on dust 2. You could always go to the lan gaming center and play the video game. Now, if you're looking for a girl who has no interest in video games, but can overlook your obsession. I'd suggest almost any public place: coffee shops, libraries, clubs, everywhere has girls. You can use the basic rules. Strike up a conversation based on your surroundings. Be observant, and compliment her. Girls are shallow. We love compliments! If you're looking for the non-gamer, do not talk about you're latest D&D session or winning the Counterstrike match 12-2. Do not even bring up video games until later in the conversation. Talk to her about other things, and then later, when you already have her hooked, ease her into the gaming side of you. Don't let it all out at once. Chances are if shes not a gamer, she's not going to understand what your talking about. She might even hate that side of you, but don't worry if she cares for you enough, she'll overlook you're obsession. Try not to make gaming all you talk about to any girl, whether their into it or not. And remember this, a lot of girls like shy gamer types. Don't worry about fumbling your words, if the girl is worth it, she'll think it's adorable. ;]

I'm a single gaming girl, my last boyfriend I met at a rave, but you know what we ended up doing the majority of the rave after we started talking? We were curled up on a couch discussing our interests and ended up talking about Counterstrike for like, 45 minutes. Believe me, you can find gaming girls in random places. You might be surprised to find that cute girl that works in the coffee shop actually plays Halo in her free time.

/end advice. ^.^

[Kahkau]

The best thing I've found is to use humor. For an example that's been proven:

him-"Hey."
her-"Hey."
him-"so... do you like... stuff?"
her-"hehehe... yeah..."
him-"Me too. I guess we have a lot in common."

Just don't make it sound too serious.

[RaiRai]

Dating advice from a gaming board. Hilarity ensues.

Kind've ironic, really. Although the male to female ratio around here is a little bit unfair, and most of the females are taken, so you 'gaming' guys need to take your love ideals elsewhere. ;)

Just as a point, you could catagorise every type of women and then ask how to date them. Each way would probably be relatively the same response - 'It depends on the person'. An interest or hobby doesn't make the woman. And while we may enjoy gaming, we enjoy other things, such as snuggling the living hell out of men. So games AND snuggles would get my vote.

And chocolate.

Anyway. Gaming girls aren't that different from any other type of girl. Just interests vary and attitudes vary a little. It depends on which type of gaming girl you're looking for. One who is very outgoing and likes playing multiplayer games or one that is quite reserved and shy preffering to play something single/two player.

*Tilts her geeky glasses and peers around* And also don't think that all gaming girls fit one specific 'look', because we all have our totally entire different look from one another. We don't walk around with 'gamer' stamped on our foreheads, and you probably wouldn't recognise us as gamers if we were out shopping unless we had it emblazoned across our busts.

[Illuminatus]

And chocolate.

Listen to the woman. Chocolate works wonders. Accompany any proposal you might give with chocolate, and it will increase your chance of success tenfold.

[adamark]

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[Varius]

Listen to the woman. Chocolate works wonders. Accompany any proposal you might give with chocolate, and it will increase your chance of success tenfold.
Women also think incredibly well of flowers, or gifts that actually appeal to their personal tastes.

Of course, you must be on good enough standing, and know each other well enough before she'll even accept such things.

Relationships, women like to take them in steps. At least, the ones who aren't super-psycho stalkers, anyway. Yeah, it's hard to get the really good girls.

And one last piece of advice, my older brother always told me: only good girls wear white panties. The rest wear colored panties, or even thongs. Most actually wear thongs. You'll be hard-pressed to find girls woh DON'T wear thongs. :/

[RaiRai]

And one last piece of advice, my older brother always told me: only good girls wear white panties. The rest wear colored panties, or even thongs. Most actually wear thongs. You'll be hard-pressed to find girls woh DON'T wear thongs. :/

That is HILARIOUS. No matter what color panties girls wear, they're still individuals. I don't think white means they're good. That's just as much as saying brides still wear white because they're virgins.

And I don't wear thongs. Uncomfortable. =(

[Kuja]

Roffle. My girlfriend wears g-strings all the time. Le yum.

I don't like to get her chocolate or roses or stuff. I want to get her things that'll last longer than a week. Rings, bracelets and pendants all the way :P

Although I did throw in some chocolates on Valentine's Day.

[NinjaVanish]

I am very sad for myself now. I will never find a to match me because I'm the strangest person alive. I am a huge nerd, I listen to metal and techno music, I'm a Christian, and I play video games all day. Weep for me.

[Witness1]

The best advice that I can give regarding women, be they gaming or non-gaming is this song I learned:

Sometimes you fall in love
And you think it will last forever
You change your life and ignore your friends
Because you think it cant get any better

But then love goes away
No matter what it never stays as strong
And then your left with nothing
Because you were thinking with your dong!

So watch out for the love bug
It can destory you like a Typhoon wind
Just play it cool and dont be a fool
And never let poon-tang come between you and your friends!

By the way this song also works for the ladies aswell.

And use condoms, damnit

[chronotriggergod]

Sometimes one can never tell. So I just wanted to be safe. I don't like seeing people ranting. Anyways, I digress. The only place that I know of to meet some gaming girls would be at a convention or something of the sort. What would be some other good places????

[RaiRai]

Cybercafes. Game/anime stores. Online.

You probably talk to girls daily who are gamers. We just don't tend to draw attention to it.

[shiney]

Girl gamers are some of the most normal reasonable fun people in the world.

I love my girl gamer. =)

[RedScar]

Wait? why don't you like to be knowen as gamers? I mean it is another label to deal with. But is it bad or something to you girls? I personly don't mind being called a gamer. I don't mind being called alot of things. But why do most girls not show their hobby? I don't mind.

[Mirai Gen]

I hope everyone took my earlier post as a joke.

One thing I find endlessly ironic is that I know that girl gamers are commonplace, really, just not nearly as commonplace as male gamers. However, in my small town of ukiah california, you won't find many. And if you do, they're 13 >.<

[Meister]

Well... befriend 'em for the next few years? Exact timespan according to the law and/or your personal morals.

Anyway, post limit, folks.

[RaiRai]

Wait? why don't you like to be knowen as gamers? I mean it is another label to deal with. But is it bad or something to you girls? I personly don't mind being called a gamer. I don't mind being called alot of things. But why do most girls not show their hobby? I don't mind.

Just a note to end, because it kind've finished without explaining. We don't feel a need to draw attention to our hobby. If someone asks about it, we'll talk about it, but there's no big neon sign above us saying 'I'm a girl gamer, come check me out!'

We like being known as gamers. We're proud of it. But it's not what makes us who we are, such as gaming isn't what makes most men. It's PART of who you are. Not the entirety of it.

*Kicks Meister in the goolies and runs away giggling*