Nice guys finish last?

[Illuminatus]

Yay! Sharing time!

I have to say, this is about the dozenth time I've seen a post bemoaning the cruelty of the fairer sex, and maybe the third time I've seen those exact rants.

I'm going to be honest. I just skimmed the thread, and I skimmed the rants, but I've read them before and I know what they say. So here's my story.

I'm a pretty darn nice guy. I've never been in a fight, and I never get angry. People usually like me, unless they're just looking for someone to hate. Sometimes I get walked on, because I dont know how to say no, but I don't feel like it's a particularly big deal most of the time.

I also have this bizarre thing where I always have crushes on my female friends. I've probably had a crush on at least one of my friends at any given time between now and when I started liking girls.

Until this year, I was all, "Boo hoo, girls don't like nice guys, blah blah blah," But let me tell you a couple things.

1. In college, theres a lot less of those girls. Girls start dating guys who aren't assholes much more often, and guys stop being assholes much more often. Works out for everybody

2. Bemoaning your situation gets you nowhere. I spent countless hours feeling sorry for myself, but it didn't do jack for my situation.

Eventually my situation improved itself, and I had two girlfriends and a little fling this year. All of them managed to hurt me quite badly because of how nice I am. I treated those girls like godesses, tried to do as much as I could to please them, and they hurt me for it.

Here's the thing though. First, especially in a relationship, you can't try too hard to please the other person. Feel free to make demands for yourself. If the other person doesn't want to give in to your reasonable demands, then they're probably not interested in you.

Second, you've got to pick yourself up again. Give yourself a little bit to feel sorry for yourself, then get back on the horse. Learn from your mistakes.

And finally, for all you never-hads out there, I want to make a promise to you. It will get better. Girls will become accessible to you, and may even seek you out. Just be patient.

There you go. My 2 cents.