I need advice from a girl

[Grandmaster_Skweeb]

Dude, my advice to you is don't worry about relationships. At all. You are fifteen you got hormones raging, 'specially in the pants, you probably don't have a job and no means of transportation. Junior high and highschool relationships, sorry to say this, are the biggest joke on humanity ever. Just hangout y'know? As my Dad once told me, "Think with the head on your shoulders and not the one in your pants."

Believe it or not, most people of the female persuasion will dig a dude more when they aren't all ramped up for relationships and just willing to let things slide. Be a pal, they'll appreciate it more than OMG GIRLFRIEND *CLING CLING CLING*.

Yeah...so really, just wait until you are atleast eighteen and have a steady job and/or money. Girls are expensive unless you meet one that is smawesome and doesn't need you to buy stuff and/or drive her around everywhere. Hell, try for a girlfriend when you are in college. For the most part they'll understand the lack of available funds. Thats when things get awesome.

[Dragonsbane]

Originally Posted by shiney

I say non-sexually because it's unlikely to be real love, yet it's not so simple as that he wants to put his fun bits into her fun bits. It is affection, and in a sense it is lust - lust is desire in it's most basic form, as far as I am concerned.

Most people in this thread are pretty right on in saying just don't rush in. Never rush in for that matter, even if this weren't to work out for you. Avoid rushing.

Ah, I see, the budding feelings he doesn't quite know how to express yet, including the sudden yet unfocused interest in the female body and its amazing beauty, which he doesn't quite know what to do with?

On another note, I wish the job/money thing applied to girls too. Why do I always have to pay for everything? Are girls often less exposed to, and therefore less comfortable with, sex, leading to a decreased interest in courting the male gender?

[Lockeownzj00]

Question, though. Out of curiosity. What is "real" love? When you're 18, you suddenly know what's up? Realizing later how stupid you were with a certain girl/guy or relationship or what have you doesn't necessarily make it not "real" love. In many cases, it's entirely possible that it was lust. In other cases, it is also entirely possible that the relationship's lifecycle came to a close, but that hardly means it wasn't love.

I'm not saying you shouldn't be skeptical of adolescent claims of love. When I was younger I felt what I thought was love at times, but was lust, but I did feel what I still believe to be love. Maybe I was a special case, because the girls (and this specific one) I was interested in never had anything to do with the "week-long relationship but Bobby said you're dumb so I'm breaking up with you" nonsense. That doesn't mean there wasn't pointless, stupid drama. I was fucked over, in the end. By a really lame and unfair decision. But I know 25 year olds, and 30 year olds, and even middle-aged people who are entrenched in similar drama. Just because you haev a house and a job now really doesn't imply that you can't have the same sort of tug-of-war (not that it's the smart thing to do, just that it's possible).

So, yeah, it is highly possible that someone as young as 15 is going too extreme too fast. But I hardly think it's "fake" when it fits all the criteria.

On advice: Echoing, here. Take it slow. Pressuring them makes tehm even more frustrated and less enamorated.

[Fifthfiend]

Fifthfiend puts it bluntly, and accurately.

Well technically Mashirosen put it bluntly and accurately. I was just quoting, really.

You know what I think this boils down to, is whatever it is going on with you when you're a teenager, the more you try to put a lot of words around it the more you're just going to choke it all to death.

You want my advice? When you're walking home or whatever with this girl? Just go up to her and smooch her, on the lips, once. If she doesn't tell you to fuck off / run away crying / whatever, then she digs you.

I mean you've known this girl your whole life, right? So at this point either she digs you, or she doesn't dig you. If she doesn't dig you, no amount of daft words you've come up with is gonna make her dig you. And if she does dig you, babbling on and on about the power of love or whatever while she's probably sitting there thinking Jesus fuck, is this idiot gonna talk all day or is he gonna goddamn smooch me? is a real good way to make her not dig you.

Here's my advice, is you're going to take this, and write it your hand, so when you see this girl, and you start babbling on like a nervous hormone-addled teenager about the wonderful special loveliness of love's special wonderfulness, you're gonna look at your hand, where Uncle Fifthfiend told you to write down shut the fuck up already and kiss her!

And then, you're gonna shut the fuck up already and kiss her.

And somehow, life will go on.

[shiney]

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[nintendo-fanboy]

Originally Posted by fifthfiend

Well technically Mashirosen put it bluntly and accurately. I was just quoting, really.

You know what I think this boils down to, is whatever it is going on with you when you're a teenager, the more you try to put a lot of words around it the more you're just going to choke it all to death.

You want my advice? When you're walking home or whatever with this girl? Just go up to her and smooch her, on the lips, once. If she doesn't tell you to fuck off / run away crying / whatever, then she digs you.

I mean you've known this girl your whole life, right? So at this point either she digs you, or she doesn't dig you. If she doesn't dig you, no amount of daft words you've come up with is gonna make her dig you. And if she does dig you, babbling on and on about the power of love or whatever while she's probably sitting there thinking Jesus fuck, is this idiot gonna talk all day or is he gonna goddamn smooch me? is a real good way to make her not dig you.

Here's my advice, is you're going to take this, and write it your hand, so when you see this girl, and you start babbling on like a nervous hormone-addled teenager about the wonderful special loveliness of love's special wonderfulness, you're gonna look at your hand, where Uncle Fifthfiend told you to write down shut the fuck up already and kiss her!

And then, you're gonna shut the fuck up already and kiss her.

And somehow, life will go on.

I don't like this advice so much. If I tell her my feelings and she doesn't feel the same way, we could still be friends but if I just go and kiss her, she may think I am a freak and hate me. I stil want to have a friendship if it doesn't go farther

[ZERO.]

Quit being such a pussy and tell her your fellings.

If she says no then thats that and life will go on.

[MuMu]

See, this girl is like those super-rare items on RPGs, you don't want to use it because you think it's precious/rare/something like this, but then you will reach the end of the game and see you never used it for nothing...Go ahed and kiss her!

[Fifthfiend]

Originally Posted by nintendo-fanboy

I just go and kiss her, she may think I am a freak and hate me.

Here's the thing - no she won't.

I mean you've known this girl your whole life, and over this, she's going to hate you?

Dude, no she won't.

I mean here, if over this, she decides she hates you? Then you know, she didn't have a whole lot of use for you anyway. So really alls you did is you saved yourself a whole lot of hemming and hawing and general jerking around. If she really wants to be friends? Then one way or the other, you're gonna be friends.

You know what the thing of this is? Is in the long run, a girl's going to appreciate it a hell of a lot more if you deal with her straight-up. I mean if you go up to a girl and give her the whole overwrought cathartic 'you're the one and only true love of my entire existence and my entire existence exists because of your true love, but oh if you don't wanna go out um I guess that's cool' speech? I mean come on, you know what you're doing? You're backin' that poor fuckin' girl right up into one bitch of an emotional corner. Cause then if she's not into you, she's gonna be like, "Well shit me, what am I supposed to say here?" Cause really, what on earth is she supposed to say there?

You go up to the girl, you kiss her once, and you say "So look, I still like you. I think you and me should go together," well, then she can be like "sorry, but I'm not down with that." And then you're like, "Well you know, then that's cool." And then it's settled.

And if she likes you? Well you know, what, if she likes you, then whichever way you play it it'll be cool, cause hey, she likes you.

I don't like this advice so much.

You know here's what you need to bear in mind about my advice, is it's advice from some jackass on the Internet giving you advice.

So, if you don't get anything out of my advice? I'm going to be honest, I don't really think you have any obligation to me whatsoever to get any kind of anything out of my advice.

[nintendo-fanboy]

Originally Posted by fifthfiend

Here's the thing - no she won't.

I mean you've known this girl your whole life, and over this, she's going to hate you?

Dude, no she won't.

I mean here, if over this, she decides she hates you? Then you know, she didn't have a whole lot of use for you anyway. So really alls you did is you saved yourself a whole lot of hemming and hawing and general jerking around. If she really wants to be friends? Then one way or the other, you're gonna be friends.

I'm still not sure. If I tell her how I feel and nothing happend. I might try and kiss her to see if there is anything