Girls, Gaming, and Dating

[Illuminatus]

You know, I have a funny story about this subject.

MY ex-GF's roomate is a gamer. She plays WoW. I play WoW. That's cool, right? We have something in common. You know why I ended up with her roomate and not her?

She never leaves the room. She's anti-social and (I hear) a raging, um, mean person. She's quiet, where my ex-Gf is outgoing, friendly and nice.

I dunno whether this will help any of you or not, but it seemed pertinent to me.

P.S. My ex-GF is also way hotter. Not that I'm a pig or anything.

[Demon with a Glass Hand]

Originally Posted by Krylo

For the same reason that hot gamer guys (like me, and a few other guys I've seen on the picture thread [DJStarchild = Hawt]) prefer gamer girls.

DJ Starchild is indeed an attractive young buck, Krylo. Additionally so are you, and so am I. We need to start some sort of 'Charlie's Angels' thing. Fight crime. Right wrongs. That sort of thing. The girls of NPF are just begging us to do it!

Originally Posted by Zoamelgustar

nice guy defense=bullshit

Its just an excuse used by those with a distinct lack of self confidence, a skewed self image. I know, I used to bring it up all the time, the truth is, nice is stupid.

Nice is weak. Women aren't looking for 'nice' guys. Women are looking for good men.

There's a psychological thesis on this somewhere out there. I would suggest looking it up, if you are interested in that sort of thing. I'm talking to you, all you NPFer Males in the Springtime of your Youth! I would do the work for you, and post a link, but part of relationships is working hard for something. I want all of you to start off on the right foot and do your own damn grunt work.

Meeting girls and getting dates isn't all that hard. Until you meet a girl. And start dating her. Then, if you're a good man, you'll stop dating for the sake of monogamy.

And it's true that all the good girls are taken, I suppose. So are all the good men (save for Krylo. But he's mine!) I happen to be one of the good men who is taken by a good girl. Her name is Blackmagegirl! and we've been dating since the summer. We own a cottage together on some lakeside property. We both want all of the NPFers out there to know this. Because when we see you talking about your girl/guy problems, we look at eachother and laugh.

Then we do it like bunnies in the spring.

Additionally, relationships are overated. When you have one, you'll know what I mean when I say you won't want another for a while (Love ya, hon!). Kids, they're are few things worse than a giant buildup to a fantastic letdown. Don't think about being in a relationship too much. It's bad for you. Furthermore, there are a lot of people out there who have a wide variety of interests. To only want a signifigant other because they share an interest in 'one silly aspect of your young lives' is a little selfdestructive.

Speaking as a man who has seen Krylo naked, and is dating a gaming girl, the desire to be with a gamer girl is a nice idea when you only look at the good. but, much like a Threesome, in practice it's a lot more work than you may be willing to put up with. Speaking as a man who enjoys threesomes, of course.

In the end, the pursuit of a gamer girl is like the pursuit of menage et trois. It's far too troublesome. Settle for the good, old fashioned "regular girl*."


*subject to an incredible amount of definitions.

[Funka Genocide]

Originally Posted by Rick Morranis, with an oversized Darth Vader helmet on

Evil will always win, because good is dumb!

for some reason, this whole "nice guy" thing brought that quote to my head, so listen well to the knowledge bestowed upon you by Dark Helmet!

also, Demons got some good points there, I always found actively searching for one particular archetype doesn't get you anywhere, love is a spontaneous kind of thing.

now I'm wondering how Demon got to see Krylo naked, I'm feeling a bit left out here...

hey, maybe I could be the Charlie for your charlies' angels! Well, I could!

was there something I wanted to say on topic? probably...

[Mr. Viewtiful]

Here's some advice I learned recently, and I pass it on to all of the guys out there: girls like guys who take the initiative. That's right, if you've found that "certain someone" who you're "totally crushing" on, and she shows winterest in you, it's your job to get out there and ask her out; from what I've heard, having a girl ask you out is generally a bad sign.

*Also, I'm in need of some help: I'm inflicted with the dreaded "forgotten line syndrome," in which one can approach a girl, but can't quite think of anything to say. Here's how bad I have it: if real life were like Halo 2, my HUD would read "Press X to say 'DURR.' " whenever I approach anyone I'd have interest in.

Okay, so I'm not that bad.

So...does anyone have any generic conversation starters I could use?

*If I'm breaking any forum rules buy asking this, then please accept my sincerest apologies. I just figure it's be good to ask those mre experienced than I...

[EvilKujujuwa]

Mr. V.

"Hi" works best. Then IF she say's "Hi. (or the likeness)" back then say something that has to do with where you are located at the time. Ex: If you are at a book store and she is holding something, comment on it or something related to it, then you will have something in common. Unless she is buying it for her brother, then you are screwed. (But how often does that happen?) I hope this helps you "score" with the ladies.

BUT here is one tip that you should always keep in mind:

DON'T TRY TO OVER DO IT. If it seems in the littlest that she isn't in to you, excuse yourself and get away. And I mean this!! Because if she is in to you and you go to leave she will say something. Good luck!

[slacker_45]

Dating advice from a gaming board. Hilarity ensues.

[Pixie]

Why is it that gaming girls get lumped into this huge category? It's like the only reason we are good is because we play games, not because of our interests. I play games, but that doesn't mean I only want to talk about games. I also like history and law. I go to raves every once in awhile. Plus, I want to be a journalist and write for a living. My gaming is a hobby. You shouldn't automatically assume a girl is going to be awesome because she plays video games, get to know her whole personality.

Anyway, I used to write an advice column, I actually have a community on livejournal for dorky advice, for nerds, gamers, and geeks. I'll give you some of the advice that I have given to people in the past. One of the best places to meet gaming girls is at a lan gaming center. I met one of my boyfriends there, and the majority of my friends. There you can find at least a couple girls. If you hang out at the lan gaming center enough, you will eventually find one willing to at least go on a date with you. Don't be afraid to ask them out. Yes, they might reject you in unspeakable ways. They might tear your heart out and stomp on it. But again, I say don't be afraid. Even if they do reject you, at least you know that you will never have a chance with her and hopefully stop having those dreams about her every night. Gaming stores are also a good place to meet gaming chicks. There you have the opportunity to strike up a conversation about the book she is holding. Hey, just maybe you'll bump heads with the perfect girl while reaching for a copy of DOOM 3 or the latest Zelda game. A few suggestions on starting a conversation with girls. Please, no cheesy pick up lines. Keep it simple. Maybe compliment her on something she's wearing, her hair, or her eyes. Next, ask her questions. Don't overload her with questions, but be interested. Be observant, notice the things she has in her hand, or the clothes she's wearing. This might give you clues about her personality, and help you with the conversation. Once you get to talking, if you're finding out that you have an interest in this girl. Let her know. Don't hint around, be a man, ask her out! Honestly, I let the guy make the first move. I know, I know, girls can do it too. But seriously, a lot of us are shy too and understand if the guy says he's nervous about it. After yu ask her out, my suggestions for a first date, unless given other signals, would be too opt for a crowded place. Maybe a coffee shop, you can sit and discuss the different tactics for counter terrorists on dust 2. You could always go to the lan gaming center and play the video game. Now, if you're looking for a girl who has no interest in video games, but can overlook your obsession. I'd suggest almost any public place: coffee shops, libraries, clubs, everywhere has girls. You can use the basic rules. Strike up a conversation based on your surroundings. Be observant, and compliment her. Girls are shallow. We love compliments! If you're looking for the non-gamer, do not talk about you're latest D&D session or winning the Counterstrike match 12-2. Do not even bring up video games until later in the conversation. Talk to her about other things, and then later, when you already have her hooked, ease her into the gaming side of you. Don't let it all out at once. Chances are if shes not a gamer, she's not going to understand what your talking about. She might even hate that side of you, but don't worry if she cares for you enough, she'll overlook you're obsession. Try not to make gaming all you talk about to any girl, whether their into it or not. And remember this, a lot of girls like shy gamer types. Don't worry about fumbling your words, if the girl is worth it, she'll think it's adorable. ;]

I'm a single gaming girl, my last boyfriend I met at a rave, but you know what we ended up doing the majority of the rave after we started talking? We were curled up on a couch discussing our interests and ended up talking about Counterstrike for like, 45 minutes. Believe me, you can find gaming girls in random places. You might be surprised to find that cute girl that works in the coffee shop actually plays Halo in her free time.

/end advice. ^.^

[Kahkau]

The best thing I've found is to use humor. For an example that's been proven:

him-"Hey."
her-"Hey."
him-"so... do you like... stuff?"
her-"hehehe... yeah..."
him-"Me too. I guess we have a lot in common."

Just don't make it sound too serious.

[RaiRai]

Originally Posted by slacker_45

Dating advice from a gaming board. Hilarity ensues.

Kind've ironic, really. Although the male to female ratio around here is a little bit unfair, and most of the females are taken, so you 'gaming' guys need to take your love ideals elsewhere.

Just as a point, you could catagorise every type of women and then ask how to date them. Each way would probably be relatively the same response - 'It depends on the person'. An interest or hobby doesn't make the woman. And while we may enjoy gaming, we enjoy other things, such as snuggling the living hell out of men. So games AND snuggles would get my vote.

And chocolate.

Anyway. Gaming girls aren't that different from any other type of girl. Just interests vary and attitudes vary a little. It depends on which type of gaming girl you're looking for. One who is very outgoing and likes playing multiplayer games or one that is quite reserved and shy preffering to play something single/two player.

*Tilts her geeky glasses and peers around* And also don't think that all gaming girls fit one specific 'look', because we all have our totally entire different look from one another. We don't walk around with 'gamer' stamped on our foreheads, and you probably wouldn't recognise us as gamers if we were out shopping unless we had it emblazoned across our busts.

[Illuminatus]

Originally Posted by RaiRai

And chocolate.

Listen to the woman. Chocolate works wonders. Accompany any proposal you might give with chocolate, and it will increase your chance of success tenfold.