What do women enjoy conversing about? - Page 3

TheSpacePope · 12-12-2006, 02:00 AM

Ask open ended questions,
but LISTEN to what she says.
Make eye contact, very important.
try to make unobtrusive physical contact, i.e. hand on arm, shoulder, get close bruther. *shower up and put on a touch of cologne. like less than what you would think.*
Body language is important. have an open stance when you are listening, but she is the center of the attention.
When she asks your opinion on something, be honest, women never forget anything. ANYTHING....
Above all, don't try to impress, you will invariably fail, BE your self.
LISTEN
LISTEN
LISTEN
to what she is saying.

That's how I nabbed mine.
That and the sleeping pills.

Mesden · 12-12-2006, 02:23 AM

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Originally Posted by musicalmechanic

My rule of thumb is to say things that you think will make them smile. Humor is your friend. The more you can make them smile, the more they may like you.

He wins.

So does Pope. Mmmmm, sleeping pills.

POS Industries · 12-12-2006, 02:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Azisien

Two-thirds of the way through is when you whip out your Yu Gi Oh deck and challenge her to a duel.

This is not untrue. You just replace "Life Points" with "Clothes" and the whole rest of the night writes itself!

But here's the thing I've learned: If you don't have that much to talk about, it's a bad sign anyway. Not that the awkward silence can't work out for you in the case that she's really slutty and, therefore, has her own ways of dealing with it. I mean, it's still a bad sign for the relationship on the whole, but the night itself was--er, would theoretically be pretty fun.

Yeah.

Mirai Gen · 12-12-2006, 03:00 AM

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Originally Posted by krylo

Confidence and good looks.

Seriously, they're the only two things I have going for me. I'm geeky as hell, more arrogant than a bond villain, an insurmountable ass, and I intrinsically ignore the mores of modern society.

Yet I can get me some ass.

Ergo: Confidence and good looks.

See, for those of us who don't fit in to the latter, we're kind of - I suppose - not fucked.

Crodevillian Team · 12-12-2006, 04:49 AM

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See, for those of us who don't fit in to the latter, we're kind of - I suppose - not fucked.

Well that's not very confident of you! Work on that! And you know, if you're that down on yourself, maybe you should change your style and getcherself a new image! It'd be refreshing! A boost!

musicalmechanic · 12-12-2006, 06:14 AM

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Shit, I tried that and was accused of sexual harassment. Oops! Some people don't have the same sense of humor I do. LOL

To be fair, I've been accused of some pretty screwy stuff. Man, I could tell you stories.

I was one of the only Puerto Rican kids in my town (or as I like to call it, a 'Freakin Rican'). Being one of the only ones, all my friends were either white or black.

My best friend, who was white, was walking down the hall a bit from me one day and I happen to say, just a tad too loud apparently, that those "lazy white boys need to get in the fields with us sometime". Principle happen to be behind me. Almost got suspended. It was great.

Mirai Gen · 12-12-2006, 06:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Crodevillian Team

Well that's not very confident of you! Work on that! And you know, if you're that down on yourself, maybe you should change your style and getcherself a new image! It'd be refreshing! A boost!

Be quiet. I'm slashing my wrists and posting on MySpace.

I mostly posted that for comedic effect anyway. Not many can top Krylo's androgynous, smoldering hot ass.

On topic: Next time try impressing her by shredding Psychobilly Freakout on Guitar Hero II.

Women can't resist that kind of sheer macho.

Mesden · 12-12-2006, 06:33 AM

You know, as to the topic line, I'll have to say something that's prolly already been said.

What do girls like to converse about? Heck, anything. It's the Human Variable thing. There's no such thing as a 'constant' thing that any one person would be interested in.

It's best you do your homework and listen to her, because that's the only way you'll ever know what she likes to talk about. Really, think about how much you know her. What's she do for a living? What's she wear? (Talking about clothes is hardly ever a bad idea >.> ) What does she do in her alone time? With friends? Friends! Ask them. They live their lives with each other and if anyone can tell you what she's interested in, they can.

Above all, while a BIT of shyness is cute, it quickly turns into...unattractive(Not to be shallow, but it just gets pretty tedious after a couple of 'cute' blunders). Hold yourself in high regard, but don't be a jackass. Make sure you actually care about your appearance (Looking like a slob anywhere in public is an "Oh my god." notch on the girl's mind scale). Be nice, but don't smother her with kindness. (Girls can do things on their own too.) Or hell, if she's the kind of girl that wants to be pampered, go ahead and do things for her.

There's a lot, a WHOLE lot about any person. The only way you can really find out is by asking them or someone who knows her.

Good Luck Snake.

scott wegener · 12-12-2006, 09:24 AM

Well I should qualify all of this by saying; there is no way at all to generalize what all women like to talk about. Not even shoes. Swear to God.

Seriously though, they are just like us really. Certainly the dynamics of interaction are different, and the same thing said to a man or woman will be absorbed and processed in different ways, so that's not what I'm getting at.

But you need to find out what they are interested in and become interested in that yourself. I'll give an example. Maybe she tells you that she really enjoys quilting, or anime. Regardless of your own interest in those things I've found its really easy to get interested in their enthusiasm for them. This really applies across the board to men and women.

I come into contact with a lot of people who are very different that me. I may not give two figs about the things they find facinating, but I can get involved in a conversation anyway because I like to learn WHY they are passionate about . . .I dunno, underwater basket weaving.

Does that help at all? You end up doing more listening and learning than talking. And given how verbally challenged most of us can become when fawning over someone we like, less talking is good.

Another critical things I've learned - don't be afraid to talk about things that really get your motor running. If the other person asks, you should never hesitate to tell them you love webcomics (for example). But then don't beat them over the head with that. I've seen it and been guilty of it. Obviously if they express some interest in the subject tell her more. Just don't force it.

A lot of geeks don't want to talk about their geeky interests. this is stupid. Eventually it will have to come up right? And if she's going to reject you based on your love of WOW, or B-Bit then its best to get it out of the way early on. I ahve a friend who married a woman who (as far as I can tell) has no imagination what so ever. She hates the LoTR! Why? Because its "not real". She can't imagine wasting time on anything that is not real. This from a cow who lives for Dancing with the Stars. LOL

And finally, regarding your female friends that you mentioned. They are NOT fair game for dating. Trust me. you have established friendships with them and going romantic is a bad idea. 98% of the time it never works out.

I don't know how old you are, but when I was in college I had several friends who were women. I was not real good at surpressing my animal instincts and the idea of contemplating any future fallout was alien to me. So one by one I got involved with most of them and now guess what? No more female friends from college.

katsielyonz · 12-12-2006, 11:57 PM

I don't know if this is going to help at all, but I figure me being female I could say a couple of things.

1.) Not all women are dead set against geeky guys - I love geeky guys, mostly cuz I'm very geeky too, for instance, I like Wow, MTG, D&D and Anime (Wolf's Rain, Kino's Journey, Neon Genesis Evangelion)(And I'm even relatively good looking). Why date someone who thinks your interests are stupid? That's not very fun :/. And if someone whipped out magic cards and forced me to play when the conversation dwindled I'd be ecstatic!

2.) I do like confident guys and sometimes even cocky, as long as they're not insulting or douche bags. Douche bags R evil. I also like sensitive guys, as long as they're not crying on my shoulder about life hating them; it's even attractive. (I already have enough problems with life, I don't need someone elses).

3.) Try hanging out with either mutual friends or friends with the other person? Group settings can be alot more relaxing than strictly one on one - atleast on a first or second date. Or go to a social event of some sort, where interaction with other people can be fun, like the opening of an art gallery; plenty of stuff to talk about and plenty of people to take the pressure off.

12-12-2006, 02:00 AM	#21
TheSpacePope Gigity Join Date: May 2005 Location: Lincoln. Nebraska Posts: 1,536	Ask open ended questions, but LISTEN to what she says. Make eye contact, very important. try to make unobtrusive physical contact, i.e. hand on arm, shoulder, get close bruther. shower up and put on a touch of cologne. like less than what you would think. Body language is important. have an open stance when you are listening, but she is the center of the attention. When she asks your opinion on something, be honest, women never forget anything. ANYTHING.... Above all, don't try to impress, you will invariably fail, BE your self. LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN to what she is saying. That's how I nabbed mine. That and the sleeping pills. __________________ Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Dust

12-12-2006, 06:33 AM	#28
Mesden There is no Toph, only Melon Lord! Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Inside of a box inside of a smaller box Posts: 4,310	You know, as to the topic line, I'll have to say something that's prolly already been said. What do girls like to converse about? Heck, anything. It's the Human Variable thing. There's no such thing as a 'constant' thing that any one person would be interested in. It's best you do your homework and listen to her, because that's the only way you'll ever know what she likes to talk about. Really, think about how much you know her. What's she do for a living? What's she wear? (Talking about clothes is hardly ever a bad idea >.> ) What does she do in her alone time? With friends? Friends! Ask them. They live their lives with each other and if anyone can tell you what she's interested in, they can. Above all, while a BIT of shyness is cute, it quickly turns into...unattractive(Not to be shallow, but it just gets pretty tedious after a couple of 'cute' blunders). Hold yourself in high regard, but don't be a jackass. Make sure you actually care about your appearance (Looking like a slob anywhere in public is an "Oh my god." notch on the girl's mind scale). Be nice, but don't smother her with kindness. (Girls can do things on their own too.) Or hell, if she's the kind of girl that wants to be pampered, go ahead and do things for her. There's a lot, a WHOLE lot about any person. The only way you can really find out is by asking them or someone who knows her. Good Luck Snake. __________________ I can tell you're lying.

12-12-2006, 09:24 AM	#29
scott wegener Art Monkey, Robot Junkie Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 210	Well I should qualify all of this by saying; there is no way at all to generalize what all women like to talk about. Not even shoes. Swear to God. Seriously though, they are just like us really. Certainly the dynamics of interaction are different, and the same thing said to a man or woman will be absorbed and processed in different ways, so that's not what I'm getting at. But you need to find out what they are interested in and become interested in that yourself. I'll give an example. Maybe she tells you that she really enjoys quilting, or anime. Regardless of your own interest in those things I've found its really easy to get interested in their enthusiasm for them. This really applies across the board to men and women. I come into contact with a lot of people who are very different that me. I may not give two figs about the things they find facinating, but I can get involved in a conversation anyway because I like to learn WHY they are passionate about . . .I dunno, underwater basket weaving. Does that help at all? You end up doing more listening and learning than talking. And given how verbally challenged most of us can become when fawning over someone we like, less talking is good. Another critical things I've learned - don't be afraid to talk about things that really get your motor running. If the other person asks, you should never hesitate to tell them you love webcomics (for example). But then don't beat them over the head with that. I've seen it and been guilty of it. Obviously if they express some interest in the subject tell her more. Just don't force it. A lot of geeks don't want to talk about their geeky interests. this is stupid. Eventually it will have to come up right? And if she's going to reject you based on your love of WOW, or B-Bit then its best to get it out of the way early on. I ahve a friend who married a woman who (as far as I can tell) has no imagination what so ever. She hates the LoTR! Why? Because its "not real". She can't imagine wasting time on anything that is not real. This from a cow who lives for Dancing with the Stars. LOL And finally, regarding your female friends that you mentioned. They are NOT fair game for dating. Trust me. you have established friendships with them and going romantic is a bad idea. 98% of the time it never works out. I don't know how old you are, but when I was in college I had several friends who were women. I was not real good at surpressing my animal instincts and the idea of contemplating any future fallout was alien to me. So one by one I got involved with most of them and now guess what? No more female friends from college. __________________ ScottWegenerDotCom

12-12-2006, 11:57 PM	#30
katsielyonz Troopa Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 88	I don't know if this is going to help at all, but I figure me being female I could say a couple of things. 1.) Not all women are dead set against geeky guys - I love geeky guys, mostly cuz I'm very geeky too, for instance, I like Wow, MTG, D&D and Anime (Wolf's Rain, Kino's Journey, Neon Genesis Evangelion)(And I'm even relatively good looking). Why date someone who thinks your interests are stupid? That's not very fun :/. And if someone whipped out magic cards and forced me to play when the conversation dwindled I'd be ecstatic! 2.) I do like confident guys and sometimes even cocky, as long as they're not insulting or douche bags. Douche bags R evil. I also like sensitive guys, as long as they're not crying on my shoulder about life hating them; it's even attractive. (I already have enough problems with life, I don't need someone elses). 3.) Try hanging out with either mutual friends or friends with the other person? Group settings can be alot more relaxing than strictly one on one - atleast on a first or second date. Or go to a social event of some sort, where interaction with other people can be fun, like the opening of an art gallery; plenty of stuff to talk about and plenty of people to take the pressure off.