05-24-2009, 12:36 PM | #31 | ||
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We've addressed the issue of ageism in class a bit. It can go either way, but U.S. culture prizes youth. Senior citizens have a disturbingly high rate of depression, because hey, being old here sucks. Offhand I'd say that old folks are entitled to a certain amount of respect, to the extent that age implies a decades-long record of adding to the community. The classes were instructive, though. When asked, all of us admitted we'd want a counselor no older than middle age, because anyone older would be too "out of touch" with our needs. "There aren't universal truths about some things?" the professor asked. "Like love?" My instinct is to say yes and no. The fundamental experiences are probably the same, but context can change. I've noticed this even with my parents, who are not elderly but left the dating scene some 30 years ago. It applies doubly to my dad as a man who grew up in a more traditional and patriarchal country. I find his opinions vis-a-vis men and women quaint. For example, a few years ago he said that staying over at a male friend's house was disrespectful to my then-boyfriend... whereas I saw it as not in any way different from staying with a female friend--the fact that said friend was a previous boyfriend notwithstanding (Dad didn't know this part, he would have disapproved even more). (We dated briefly at the beginning but both agreed that it didn't work, and we've stayed as friends for years now, so he's fundamentally a friend to me. So yes, cross-sex friendships can exist and be just like same-sex friendship, though it can be harder. In that case it helped that there were no regrets on either side.) When my then-boyfriend and I had to do the long-distance thing for a while (well, sort of long-distance, we were 2 hours apart) both my parents were concerned, because were coming from an expectation that the boy travels to the girl. In that context, making her travel means something bad. In our context, I drove there, because I had a car, he didn't, and it was that simple. In turn, he paid for most meals. ...Holy shit I write too much. What I'm saying is that they don't quite get that we do things differently then they did. But if I were to ask them a question like, "What characterizes a loving relationship?" I'd have a good chance of getting an answer that could apply to me as well as them. So basically, I feel conditionally justified in preferring a younger person's opinion... but maybe there's covert ageism that I can't see as well because I can't step outside myself? |
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05-24-2009, 01:11 PM | #32 | |
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05-24-2009, 01:21 PM | #33 | |
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05-24-2009, 01:43 PM | #35 | ||
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I mean if you are going to call them African-Americans then all white Americans should be European-Americans with no real difference between them. Like all those countries you liste din your blood are all very very similar to each other. Quote:
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Just because America is stuck in the 50s technologically does not mean the same for the world. While we began many technologies, the rest of the world has largely been the ones to advance them.
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05-24-2009, 03:38 PM | #37 |
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Probably alot of it is because these old people grew up when being old in and of itself granted you authority and respect. My grandpa for example believes he is older, therefor more knowledgable, therefor correct and you should always listen to your elders based on that reason.
Atleast thats what he says. Its also possible he only says that because he is older and its just him rationalizing a superiority complex, and if he wasn't the oldest he'd just make up some other reason to justify why you should listen to him
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Seriously, it's rather hard to find the difference unless you're looking for it. If you talk to someone from Ethiopia, they can tell you just by a name which clan you're a part of. Ask a guy with dark skin about the different people in Chicago. Personally, a stereotype only goes so far before it's broken 20 ways from Sunday. Then you have to acknowledge that someone can be different from what's portrayed. No amount of grouping will change the fact that even within the similarities, someone's going to break the mold. Quote:
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05-24-2009, 04:13 PM | #39 | ||
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Seriously, though, I see the guy at least seeing the inside of a cell for holding up traffic. China is pretty strict.
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05-25-2009, 12:10 AM | #40 |
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Oh shit, Lost my title! GET THE GLOVES! somebody call H4x Mage! three-way cage match! There can only be one!!!!!
ANNNNYWAY, as a reasonable, forward thinking young man who posesses the knowledge of the unfathomable complexity of the conditions of an individual's motives for suicide, I feel apalled at this elderly gentleman's actions. As a hyperactive idiot, I feel in awe of this old dude's bad-assery "Fuck it, I'll kill 'em!"
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