What Do Girls Want? - Page 2

betachris_00 · 01-30-2008, 04:55 AM

It doesn't matter what girls want in a guy, as long as you remember that most of the time, it's exactly what you aren't.

Accept this truth, and free yourself from the worries of the universe!

Jared Todd · 01-30-2008, 05:06 AM

Damnables! Dumb me, I didn't realise this was a thread to get consensus of what girls find attractive in a guy, not a good valentines gift! Now I just feel stupid. Not unlike one third chunk of the moments in my life.

I know what I like in a guy!! I do! Some may say I'm the ultimate girly guy when it comes to romanticism. Although, not so girly in any other area whatsoever. DFM wants to hear what guys like in a guy, right? I'll take a crack at both, I'll try mentioning things girls find attractive too.

1. Messy hair. Woo. The more you can mess it up, the better. Girls and really weird guys like me like to play with our guys, ruffle their hair, play with their neck. It's better if you have a hairstyle that can still be intact after a little ruffle. I had to learn that the hard way, m'self, girls can't keep their hands off my hair! and make sure you let them play with you, it's a sign of playfulness and attraction in most girls.

2. If you want to work out a bunch, that's fine, makes it less easy to hurt you. But! Sexy is a state of mind. I once heard Justin Timberlake say that. There are plenty of people who are hotter in look than him, but why does he stand out so much? He has the sexy state of mind! Believe you're sexier than anything. You can still be modest, but you're hot! Attractive! Believe it! That'll help with--

3. --courage! Outwardness, open-ness. Be confident and such. Once again, this doesn't effect anything else besides being courageous. If you have something on your mind, bring it up. Share, and don't let them miss out on interesting parts of your day. The more you share, and the more up-front you are, the better she/person likes you.

4. Buy almost /as much expensive things for yourself as her if you buy her anything! This is important. Girls like to have attention on them, but it can get demeaning after a while if you just get a ton of stuff for them often. The act of getting gifts like flowers, jewelery, and clothes wears out fast, even if you mean for it to be nice. Get something you can both share equally, or perhaps moreso her, but something you can enjoy too. Get something productive, and useful, not just pretty jewelery. She likes a show you like, buy the DVD for it. Stuff like that.

5. Uhh... I'm running out of stuff. OH!! Wait. Be mindful of jokes and general lame-ocity. Women have a horrible habit of faking their feelings. But they get annoyed by you if you keep acting in a way they don't like, even though they don't tell you. This is a trait only shared amongst girls. and it's the worst, beside PMS. Make sure you can identify little things she does when she's annoyed or thinks you're being lame. Because she will not tell you. But she'll expect you to know, and she'll leave you if you keep doing it!

Beyond that, I think it's cute when a guy shaves, but leaves stray hairs under their chin. and glasses somehow make everyone look hotter. On top of that, blue eyes and green eyes are hawt, but even though I'd agree with getting colored contact lenses to fix your boring brown eyes, it's best to keep the general color of your natural hair. Maybe touch parts of it up with a lighter or darker shade of your natural hair color, but it's sexy to see someone proud of their true hair color.

Yeah, that's all I have. > >

katiuska · 01-30-2008, 07:14 AM

I don't know, I can talk generalities, or I can give personal preferences, but they don't agree in a lot of respects and don't necessarily apply to another given person. Preferences are highly idiosyncratic. From a personal standpoint, you won't ever quite figure it out -- even if 99.9% of women agree that you're the sexiest manbeast ever to stalk the earth, there'll always be that .1% who just aren't into you, no matter what you do.

From a general discussion standpoint:
--Some women like a man with a beard, others... not as much. There is a general consensus that it depends a lot on the guy. If you're not quite the image of raw manliness anyway, facial hair will only make you look more ridiculous. Shave if you want to play it safe.
--Totally spaceships.
--Show interest in her for who she is as person -- not a curiosity, not someone who's there and you're horny, not the one who ends your desperation, not the one who helps you kill time. Women can often sense ulterior motives and they're fine if you're into it too, but when considering actual relationships, no one likes to feel like it could have been anyone for their partner.
--It's worth noting that a given woman will also often have different criteria depending on where she is in her life. The qualities that make a good fling a good fling aren't the same, and in fact, might actively contradict a lot of what makes a good long-term partner such. I'm made to understand that this also holds vis-a-vis men's preferences for women.

Selfish · 01-30-2008, 08:34 AM

How about someone to spend time creatively with you?

What do I mean?

--picnics in the snow
--cross country skiing
--bicycle riding
--swimming
--going to the library
--walking in the rain or mist singing really off key to each other / with each other
--reading to each other out of your favourite genre of book
--playing a video game together with a medium pizza
--doing chores together like laundry or dishes
--giving each other back rubs

Sure, having the right "look" is always a plus; having the right "person" is more important.

Mr.Bookworm · 01-30-2008, 08:55 AM

In my (limited) experience, not being an asshole is a start.

Also, learn how to cook. I have no idea why, but it works better most of the time if you cook instead of taking them out to dinner. Also cheaper, too.

And don't stare at the chest.

Preturbed · 01-30-2008, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Jared Todd

3. --courage! Outwardness, open-ness. Be confident and such. Once again, this doesn't effect anything else besides being courageous. If you have something on your mind, bring it up. Share, and don't let them miss out on interesting parts of your day. The more you share, and the more up-front you are, the better she/person likes you.

This is so ridiculously important that it bears repeating. Be confident! Girls dig on that so hard. Smile (use teeth! unless they're green/fuzzy) and compliment her, too. When you shake her hand upon meeting her the first time, use both your hands.

Have tons of stuff to talk about. If you don't, either go get experienced or make some shit up.

Fifthfiend · 01-30-2008, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by POS Industries

Okay but seriously this is, what, help-me-try-to figure-out-love thread #4? Is there any way we can keep this limited to one single omnithread or something?

I'm planning to stack them up on top of each other to form a defensive barrier against the Smash Brothers threads.

shiney · 01-30-2008, 11:52 AM

And then there will be a versus thread.

Love vs. Smash Brothers all-out battle royale! Winner takes all!

DFM · 01-30-2008, 12:04 PM

By god, I don't even know who I'd want to win.

Wyndon · 01-30-2008, 12:10 PM

I'm just gonna call myself a girl for this post to make things easier!

Girls are attracted to taken men. I don't know what it is...but girls can tell when a guy is desperate, and it's a hardcore turn-off. Try to act and FEEL like you don't need a significant other and I promise you, girls will be alll over you.

Example: It's hard to get a girlfriend when single, but when your taken, it seems as if the girls all want you. That's just the way it works...Girls can TELL when a guy is desperate and not.

Be different. In some way, because these days, guys are allll the same. Girls want some creativity in you....whether it's in the form of humor, artistic ability, or just genuine sensitivity.

Another thing: I really effin' love Zack Effron's entire look. Not overly muscular, just in shape, but the long messy hair sweeped to a side (It's what I'm rockin' right now, and I promise you, the girls AND guys love it!), and a good sense of fashion! Maybe that last is just me....I love a guy who dresses at express, armani, banana republic, American Eagle, H&M, Club Monaco...again that could be just me, because I've spent well over three grand on my clothesies.

Also, be a sweetheart. Don't be a "manly man". Be a sweetie!

So, in a nutshell, Brandon Boyd. If you can be him (he's hot, he dresses decently, he has amazing hair, he can sing, and he's genuinely sweet), you win.

01-30-2008, 05:06 AM	#12
Jared Todd Boo Buddy Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ca.. nad...nada? Posts: 685	Damnables! Dumb me, I didn't realise this was a thread to get consensus of what girls find attractive in a guy, not a good valentines gift! Now I just feel stupid. Not unlike one third chunk of the moments in my life. I know what I like in a guy!! I do! Some may say I'm the ultimate girly guy when it comes to romanticism. Although, not so girly in any other area whatsoever. DFM wants to hear what guys like in a guy, right? I'll take a crack at both, I'll try mentioning things girls find attractive too. 1. Messy hair. Woo. The more you can mess it up, the better. Girls and really weird guys like me like to play with our guys, ruffle their hair, play with their neck. It's better if you have a hairstyle that can still be intact after a little ruffle. I had to learn that the hard way, m'self, girls can't keep their hands off my hair! and make sure you let them play with you, it's a sign of playfulness and attraction in most girls. 2. If you want to work out a bunch, that's fine, makes it less easy to hurt you. But! Sexy is a state of mind. I once heard Justin Timberlake say that. There are plenty of people who are hotter in look than him, but why does he stand out so much? He has the sexy state of mind! Believe you're sexier than anything. You can still be modest, but you're hot! Attractive! Believe it! That'll help with-- 3. --courage! Outwardness, open-ness. Be confident and such. Once again, this doesn't effect anything else besides being courageous. If you have something on your mind, bring it up. Share, and don't let them miss out on interesting parts of your day. The more you share, and the more up-front you are, the better she/person likes you. 4. Buy almost /as much expensive things for yourself as her if you buy her anything! This is important. Girls like to have attention on them, but it can get demeaning after a while if you just get a ton of stuff for them often. The act of getting gifts like flowers, jewelery, and clothes wears out fast, even if you mean for it to be nice. Get something you can both share equally, or perhaps moreso her, but something you can enjoy too. Get something productive, and useful, not just pretty jewelery. She likes a show you like, buy the DVD for it. Stuff like that. 5. Uhh... I'm running out of stuff. OH!! Wait. Be mindful of jokes and general lame-ocity. Women have a horrible habit of faking their feelings. But they get annoyed by you if you keep acting in a way they don't like, even though they don't tell you. This is a trait only shared amongst girls. and it's the worst, beside PMS. Make sure you can identify little things she does when she's annoyed or thinks you're being lame. Because she will not tell you. But she'll expect you to know, and she'll leave you if you keep doing it! Beyond that, I think it's cute when a guy shaves, but leaves stray hairs under their chin. and glasses somehow make everyone look hotter. On top of that, blue eyes and green eyes are hawt, but even though I'd agree with getting colored contact lenses to fix your boring brown eyes, it's best to keep the general color of your natural hair. Maybe touch parts of it up with a lighter or darker shade of your natural hair color, but it's sexy to see someone proud of their true hair color. Yeah, that's all I have. > > __________________ http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e4...h_todd/sig.png

01-30-2008, 07:14 AM	#13
katiuska Unlicensed Practitioner Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 801	I don't know, I can talk generalities, or I can give personal preferences, but they don't agree in a lot of respects and don't necessarily apply to another given person. Preferences are highly idiosyncratic. From a personal standpoint, you won't ever quite figure it out -- even if 99.9% of women agree that you're the sexiest manbeast ever to stalk the earth, there'll always be that .1% who just aren't into you, no matter what you do. From a general discussion standpoint: --Some women like a man with a beard, others... not as much. There is a general consensus that it depends a lot on the guy. If you're not quite the image of raw manliness anyway, facial hair will only make you look more ridiculous. Shave if you want to play it safe. --Totally spaceships. --Show interest in her for who she is as person -- not a curiosity, not someone who's there and you're horny, not the one who ends your desperation, not the one who helps you kill time. Women can often sense ulterior motives and they're fine if you're into it too, but when considering actual relationships, no one likes to feel like it could have been anyone for their partner. --It's worth noting that a given woman will also often have different criteria depending on where she is in her life. The qualities that make a good fling a good fling aren't the same, and in fact, might actively contradict a lot of what makes a good long-term partner such. I'm made to understand that this also holds vis-a-vis men's preferences for women. __________________ If I try too hard my brain explodes, so don't expect me to be witty on purpose. Last edited by katiuska; 01-30-2008 at 07:18 AM.

01-30-2008, 08:34 AM	#14
Selfish mammothtank send me that link again Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canuckistan. Posts: 356	How about someone to spend time creatively with you? What do I mean? --picnics in the snow --cross country skiing --bicycle riding --swimming --going to the library --walking in the rain or mist singing really off key to each other / with each other --reading to each other out of your favourite genre of book --playing a video game together with a medium pizza --doing chores together like laundry or dishes --giving each other back rubs Sure, having the right "look" is always a plus; having the right "person" is more important. __________________ Eastern Daylight: the place where I am. "The internet: where you can show the world that you're doodling on your flesh and receive tangible rewards." - sekrit persun on NPF.

01-30-2008, 11:52 AM	#18
shiney Derrrrrrrrrrrrrp. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The land of fartz and buttz Posts: 8,266	And then there will be a versus thread. Love vs. Smash Brothers all-out battle royale! Winner takes all! __________________ boop

01-30-2008, 12:04 PM	#19
DFM Om Nom Nom Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 3,850	By god, I don't even know who I'd want to win. __________________ [14:26] ManoftheRus: YOU GODDAMN SNEAKY DEE

01-30-2008, 08:55 AM	#15
Mr.Bookworm YYYEEEEEAAAAAAHHH Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 2,034	In my (limited) experience, not being an asshole is a start. Also, learn how to cook. I have no idea why, but it works better most of the time if you cook instead of taking them out to dinner. Also cheaper, too. And don't stare at the chest.

01-30-2008, 12:10 PM	#20
Wyndon BUTTPANDA!! Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 554	I'm just gonna call myself a girl for this post to make things easier! Girls are attracted to taken men. I don't know what it is...but girls can tell when a guy is desperate, and it's a hardcore turn-off. Try to act and FEEL like you don't need a significant other and I promise you, girls will be alll over you. Example: It's hard to get a girlfriend when single, but when your taken, it seems as if the girls all want you. That's just the way it works...Girls can TELL when a guy is desperate and not. Be different. In some way, because these days, guys are allll the same. Girls want some creativity in you....whether it's in the form of humor, artistic ability, or just genuine sensitivity. Another thing: I really effin' love Zack Effron's entire look. Not overly muscular, just in shape, but the long messy hair sweeped to a side (It's what I'm rockin' right now, and I promise you, the girls AND guys love it!), and a good sense of fashion! Maybe that last is just me....I love a guy who dresses at express, armani, banana republic, American Eagle, H&M, Club Monaco...again that could be just me, because I've spent well over three grand on my clothesies. Also, be a sweetheart. Don't be a "manly man". Be a sweetie! So, in a nutshell, Brandon Boyd. If you can be him (he's hot, he dresses decently, he has amazing hair, he can sing, and he's genuinely sweet), you win.